Adoption & Foster Care: My Personal Experiences: HB 237

In addition to HB 225, another bill was put before the Utah State Legislature yesterday which greatly affects not only the rights of foster parents and foster children, but the rights of birth parents and parents pursuing private adoptions as well.? This bill is HB 337.? Although I didn?t read all 43 pages of HB 337 and thus didn?t take the time to formulate a response in letter form to my representatives, from my understanding the ?jist? of the part of this bill which affects my rights is that relatives of foster children would be given preference to adopt a child (versus the child?s foster family) AFTER parental rights of the child have been terminated.?

When I heard this I scratched my head and was like, ?Say WHAT??? Yet another one of my pet peeves concerning foster care is when a foster family has had a child in their care for several months or in some cases, a couple of years, and as soon as parental rights are about to be terminated relatives come out of the woodwork and suddenly decide they?d like to have the child in their care-despite the fact that the child is bonded and attached to their foster family (and vice versa) and thriving in a safe and nurturing home.? In some cases, the foster child has never even met or rarely interacted with their relatives who are now interested in becoming their full-time caregivers.? Perhaps the most disturbing scenario is when relatives come forward insisting that their rights be heard, and the child is placed in their care- perhaps even adopted by them- and then the relatives change their mind about becoming the permanent caregivers to the child which results in major disruption and trauma for the child as he or she is returned to his former foster home.???

Please don?t misunderstand me- the reason such scenarios irritate me is not because kin of the foster child steps forward- keeping families together is one of the primary goals of foster care and foster parents (or ?resource families? as the Utah Foster Care Foundation refers to us) are just that- a resource in helping families while they work things out.? The thing that bothers me about such cases is the TIMING of it all.? Where were these relatives during the 120 day period following the child?s initial removal when they are by law given preference to come forward, express an interest in caring for the child, get their background checks turned in and home studies done?? Furthermore, what kind of support and/or intervention did these relatives provide to the biological parents before the child came into state custody in the first place??

[Of course, it the relatives are distant ones, they may be unaware there is a need for support in the first place- or that such relatives even exist.?? Such was the case with our foster son, George, who only stayed with us for three months before distant relatives of his mother?s were able to become licensed kinship providers with the intent of eventually adopting him.]? I was honestly happy for them and for George after meeting them and I know from listening to their perspective and going through the licensing process myself that they would have liked to have sped up the process of paperwork and training required to have George in their home sooner. ?Had George been in our home for several months or over a year, on the other hand, his move would have been even harder on everyone involved- and especially traumatic to George to be bounced from home to home after forming attachments and beginning to establish a sense of permanency.Hopefully, those examples are helpful in illustrating to others why HB 237 is upsetting to Utah?s foster parents and the children they care for.? Now for the GOOD NEWS from yesterday?s hearing:? According to one representative, the intent of the bill was not to remove a child from a suitable foster home that wished to adopt.? But as with The Constitution (or any other legal document for that matter) some of the wording in certain sections of the bill (Namely, Section 13 on page 36), was interpreted by many to mean such.?? Click here to read the bill in its entirety.Aside from foster children and foster parents, here?s how HB 237 could affect birthparents and adoptive couples pursuing private adoptions:? (Anyone who has a better legal understanding of this part of the bill, please feel free to correct me if I?m mistaken) Once a birthparent has terminated their rights to an infant in a private adoption?a relative may come forward and adopt the child, against the birth parent?s wishes!

Regarding?this legislation I?m grateful for the chance for my rights to be respected and for my voice to be heard on such important decisions effecting children and families.

Source: http://mamamem.blogspot.com/2012/02/hb-237.html

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